Recently in conversation with my mum we were discussing stepping out of the comfort zone. This came about as she was saying how my brother would have had a lot more opportunities if he had moved to London but he will not leave Portugal for anything.
I am all for being in the comfort zone. I am guessing most people are. On top of that I can be quite lazy and always need additional motivation to “move”.
Even though this is the case I have stepped out of my comfort zone quite a few times in my life.
Most of those times if not all of them there was something pushing me out of that beautiful place that is our comfort zone.
The biggest step was probably moving to London. Our financial situation was not ideal so the way to sort out that problem was to look for financial independence elsewhere. It was not an easy journey but it had to be done.
Since I was a little kid I have always heard adults say “if you are not happy you can move” (“se nao estás bem muda-te”). This was said mostly in a derogatory way. Almost as in saying that said person could not be less bothered about your well-being so if you were not happy about it you should be the one to leave the “situation”.
It looks like that saying pretty much rules how I live my life.
Most of the times I changed jobs was because I was not totally happy with the current situation. Now, this doesn’t mean I don’t try to make things better before stepping out. I usually do if I think it is worth it. The truth is that very often there are things that are out of your control and that is OK. You need to learn to accept that and move on. Be selfish and put yourself first when necessary.
Life is short and you should not be in a position that makes you miserable for too long.
This said, don’t be reckless. Study your options and make calculated moves. Try not to hurt others and always have a plan B (and a plan C when possible).
When it comes to the small things in life try to step out of your comfort zone from time to time.
I did that when I accepted my first photography “job” and went all in on my photography game. Come on, I even went to a big photography meetup to shoot with my tiny DSLR with a bunch of very nice strangers. Now I am usually busy watching all the tutorials and getting out there quite often to shoot.